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Why Having A Quarter Life Crisis Is Awesome

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I thought it was the end of the world. I didn’t know what I was doing with my life, where I was headed and kept questioning everything about myself. I started second guessing my career path and didn’t know how to make the switch to doing what I absolutely love: writing.
I kept comparing myself to my friends, my husband and other people several years older than me. I felt depressed for still being an intern at 22 years old, which I know now was a ridiculous way to feel.





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Why Having A Quarter Life Crisis Is Awesome

Second Guessing

I thought it was the end of the world.

I didn’t know what I was doing with my life, where I was headed and kept questioning everything about myself. I started second guessing my career path and didn’t know how to make the switch to doing what I absolutely love: writing.

I kept comparing myself to my friends, my husband and other people several years older than me. I felt depressed for still being an intern at 22 years old, which I know now was a ridiculous way to feel.

First Steps

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First Steps

Landing an internship, and then managing to turn that internship into an entry level job, is actually something I should have been celebrating. I was so focused on what other people were doing that I didn’t take the time to appreciate the achievements I had made on my own.

Stop The Comparisons

These comparisons led to what I like to refer to as my quarter life crisis.

While this time of my life was filled with panic and insecurity, it also turned out to be the best thing that has ever happened to me. My panic eventually turned into laser focus which guided me to realizing what I really want to do with my life: going back to my passion of writing.

After spending so much time comparing myself to my colleagues I learned that one’s success should not be measured simply by what they do, but instead by one’s ability to follow their dreams and pursue what they’re passionate about in life. We should stop the comparisons, and instead relish in each other’s successes, whatever they may be.

Worry

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Worry

During a quarter life crisis, you go through a series of stages:

1) Worry: Something happens that creates a spark of worry in you. Worry for your career, your life, anything. Worry doesn’t last too long, instead it manifests into the second stage: panic

Panic

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Panic

2) Panic: After fretting and worrying about everything under the sun, you will begin to panic over these things and will quickly obsess over ways to change directions.

Envy

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Envy

3) Envy: Envy is an ugly beast. Your panic and obsessions will lead you to search for inspiration, which you will most likely find by seeing what friends and family are doing. What might first start out as carefree browsing, can transform into envy, causing you to become jealous and questioning how and why someone is at the next stage in life, while you’re still struggling along.

Denial

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Denial

4) Denial: By this point, those around you will begin to notice your change in behavior and when confronted with this truth of your crisis, you’ll deny. Ultimately turning away help from those who offer it.

Acceptance

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Acceptance

5) Acceptance: Once you simmer down and realize the changes in your life, you’ll accept the fact that you are in the midst of a quarter-life crisis. This is a good thing, for this will help you dig yourself out of the hole you’ve created for yourself, and will now be able to take the troubles that are bothering you, and focus your energy towards your goals.

Focus

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Focus

6) Focus: After worrying, panicking, and obsessing, your mind will convince you to get up and make a change, allowing you the opportunity to explore and start over.

While it may sound scary and daunting, a quarter life crisis is actually an amazing experience to endure. You have to go through some trials before you can learn what it is that you truly want in life.

Have you experienced a quarter life crisis? How did you deal with it?