Profile: Dr Jill Murray

Psychotherapist & Author

Dr. Jill Murray is fast becoming the leading authority on destructive relationships. A licensed psychotherapist with a private practice in Southern California, she is a much in- demand speaker for high school students, parents, domestic violence groups, healthcare professionals and teachers across the country. With her first book BUT I LOVE HIM: Protecting Your Teen Daughter from Controlling, Abusive Dating Relationships, she established herself as a national expert on abusive relationships. She has made several appearances on OPRAH, MONTEL and many other national shows.

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10 Easy Ways to Improve Your Marriage Today

The romance/sizzle/spark/affection has left the building and no one is chasing after it. The holidays are a great opportunity to look at and improve what ails us in our intimate relationship. What follows are my so-easy-anyone-can-do-it tips to improve your marriage in moments.

Category: Self Discovery

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Girls Who Abuse Boys

Let’s face it: when we talk about abusive dating relationships or domestic violence in general, we usually think of a man abusing a woman, right? Women are always the “victims.” It’s time for us to change the way we think because in fact, while male-to-female abuse is leveling off nationwide (at a very high level, I’ll grant you), female-to-male abuse is skyrocketing.

Category: Social Awarenessxxx

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Can You Help Change an Abuser?

Throughout my work with abuse survivors (remember: no VICTIMS), the main questions I’ve been asked have been: Can s/he change? Did I do something wrong? Is there a chance we can get back together? Am I that unimportant to him/her?

Category: Social Awarenessxxx

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The Cost Your Spirit Pays In A Destructive Relationship

“I can’t imagine what it feels like to be content and grateful. I have spent so many years in bad relationships, I wouldn’t know a healthy one if walked up and introduced itself to me. My spirit feels dead and my soul feels destroyed.”
Those devastating words were said to me by a patient of mine who had spent most of her life in a series of destructive relationships. The cumulative effect from her critical parents, unkind spouse, unappreciative children, demanding boss, back-stabbing coworkers, and gossipy friends had left her emotionally and spiritually depleted. In addition, she was deeply depressed, anxious, frequently ill, had low self-esteem, and felt hopeless and abandoned.

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How To Help A Friend In An Abusive Relationship

So many people ask me this question that I thought I’d devote a short article to it this month. I hope it will be helpful to you if you know someone who is stuck in a creepy relationship.
Helping a friend who is in an abusive relationship is a very frustrating experience. You see a creep for who s/he is but your friend is oblivious to everything you see or say. It’s as if she doesn’t have eyes, ears, or a brain! How do you get through to her (I will use “her” or “she” from now on, but feel free to substitute your male pal’s name, if it applies).

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