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Music as Medicine: 3 Ways Your Favorite Tunes Improve Your Well-Being

There is mounting evidence for the soothing effects of all types of music on heart rate, pulse, blood pressure, and other indicators of health. It is encouraging to learn that, while music can be purely entertaining, it can also be added to your holistic wellness toolkit, especially if you enjoy music in general.
Good Therapy

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Conscious Eating: 10 Food-related Tips to Help You Improve Nutrition & Health

These days, everyone has an opinion about how we should be eating. There are thousands of guides for dieting, cleansing and eating “right,” and no one can really say which is best.
That’s because there isn’t one way of eating that works for each individual body and lifestyle. You have to take everything you hear and read about nutrition at face value and be willing to walk away from something you’ve tried if it doesn’t work for you.
The Mindful Word
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Habits That Help: Setting Yourself Up for Success with Self-Care

Big dreams can be intimidating, but some putting in some early preparation for good habits could be the one of the kindest things you'll ever do for yourself - and also improve your chances of success.
Good Therapy

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Springtime Simplifying, Sorting, + Selling!

I might have a proper place for everything, but everything's proper place isn't necessarily with me.
So many of the things I own have served me well, and so I keep them. I'm starting to realize, though, that organized possessions are not the same as purposeful possessions.
Positively Present

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Why We Stay in Relationships That Hurt

Once we gain insight into our own patterns, it frees us to make different choices, sometimes difficult ones. Do you believe you deserve more?
By Lori Hollander LCSW-C, BCD, GoodTherapy.org Topic Expert
Good Therapy

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Sky or Screen? : The Power of Perspective

You're probably well aware that your perspective -- or point of view -- matters a great deal.
Go to a window with a screen right now and try this: focus on the screen, and the sky'll go blurry. Focus on the sky, and the blurred screen can almost be ignored.
Positively Present

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Live Mindfully to Eat Mindfully

Rushing from task to task doesn't leave much time for healthy decisions. Here's a tip to break that cycle, and start making more mindful choices.
Karen Koenig

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‘Why Do I Do That?’ The Silent Sway of the Threat Response

We've all had second thoughts about things we've done. People are complicated, and can sometimes even hide the truth from themselves.
By Andrea L. Bell, LCSW, SEP, GoodTherapy.org Topic Expert
Good Therapy

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Be Kind: Change the World One Small Act at a Time

There's a lot being said about random acts of kindness, but could they really change the world? Maybe you simply do them because they need doing, because someone has to, and why not you? And that is reason enough.
The Mindful Word
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The Path of Least Resistance: Adding More Flow to Your Life

© Copyright 2017 GoodTherapy.org. All rights reserved. Permission to publish granted by Kim Egel, MA, MFT, therapist in Cardiff, California
Good Therapy

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Coping with News Anxiety

Keeping up with the news can lead to anxiety, but the answer isn't to ignore the world out there. Instead, try these three easy steps to get your zen back: Break - Make - Take!
Positively Present

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How to Be More Mindful (and Smart!) with Your Smartphone

Smartphones - what would we do without them? They help us connect immediately, but that may not always be such a good thing. Maybe it's time we took a step back and become a bit more aware of how we interact with the these amazing devices - and the world around us.

By Lindsey C. Pratt, MA, NCC, MHC
Good Therapy

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Joy in the Known: Comfort & Connection with Hygge

Hygge is suddenly everywhere. This Danish concept of "coziness" takes ordinary every day things and gifts them with meaning, making almost an art form of simple pleasures. Learn more about the benefits of this simple practice.
© Copyright 2017 GoodTherapy.org. All rights reserved. Permission to publish granted by Nicole Urdang, MS, NCC, DHM, therapist in Buffalo, New York
Good Therapy

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Can What You Eat Make You Happier?

If you're tempted to reach for a salty snack or a cookie to boost your mood, you're far from alone. But these aren't really the best choices to feel better - and there's quite a bit of real science behind why.
Karen Koenig

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Why You Should Read Your Horoscope

As I was reading my horoscope last week, I had to pause and ask myself, “Why am I doing this?
Positively Present

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5 Tactics for Coping with a Meltdown

I knew I had the tools to figure out a way to make the most of things, even though I was feeling pretty helpless, so I decided to give them a shot. Here's what I did to cope this week.
Positively Present

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The Hidden Stories Behind Your Actions

Making better choices is something we all aspire to. One step to doing that is to identify the true intentions behind a particular action or decision. Intentions hold valuable information about what is really important to us.
Mauricio P. Yabar, MSW, MEd, LCSW, GoodTherapy.org Topic Expert
GoodTherapy.or

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2017: The Year of Self-Love

Follow these tips to practice better self-love in 2017!
Positively Present

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Hygge: What It Is + 11 Ways to Do It

Hygge is about finding meaning in the ordinary aspects of life. It's about exploring and celebrating daily luxuries, and connecting in a mindful way with the people around you.
Positivly Present

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3 Red Flags You’re About to Make a Decision You’ll Regret

Here, I'll going to spotlight some red-flag behaviors that could increase our chances of regretting some of our decisions. I’ll also offer some suggestions on avoiding these red flags - before you make those decisions.
© Copyright 2016 GoodTherapy.org. All rights reserved. Permission to publish granted by Joshua Nash, LPC-S, therapist in Austin, Texas

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How Loving Yourself More Leads to Judging Others Less

Sometimes, the idea of "loving yourself" seems to be almost a luxury, but that couldn't be further from the truth. Our harsh self-judgements hurt not just ourselves, but created unrealistic expectations for others in our lives. Learn why being kind to yourself is an excellent beginning.
Good Therapy
© Copyright 2016 GoodTherapy.org. All rights reserved. Permission to publish granted by Ida Khamesy, M.A., LMFT, therapist in Irvine, California

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Campaigning for Compassion

Politics are important, and because the winner of the election can have a big impact on our lives, it's no wonder so many of us get personally and intensely invested in our beliefs.
Positively Present

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The Magic + Mindfulness of October

Every year I fall in love with this month, this pause between the extremes, all over again.
Positively Present

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Why I Don’t Use the Word ‘Forgiveness’ in Trauma Therapy

Once we determine that forgiveness is not necessary, finding a word that will be more congruent for the person in his or her trauma work is less demanding.
GoodTherapy.org

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How to Make Your Life Uncommonly Good

We all want to live good lives, but what does a "good life" actually mean?
Positively Present

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Simple Steps to Happiness

Happiness can often seem elusive. Here's a reminder of some simple steps anyone can take to feel better.
Karen Koenig

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A-Wear-Ness: Mindfulness + What You Wear

“Enclothed cognition” is the scientific definition for how your style and clothing choices reflect and affect your mood, health, and confidence.
Positively Present

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6 Types of Friendships Bad for Emotional Health

Relationships based on trust help protect us, both emotionally and physically. But some "friendships" don't work that way. Here are 6 types of relationships that could hurt you.
Good Therapy

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Lessons from Autumn on Letting Go

We're all different when it comes to letting go, but I bet that no matter who you are, you have a hard time letting go of something.

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4 Things I Learned During 4 Years of Marriage

Four years can teach you a lot - about yourself, your love, and life in general.

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How to Reclaim Your Magic

What if we talked about ourselves the way we talk about someone we're in love with? What if we wrote poems — and had thoughts — filled with that same admiration and adoration?
Positively Present

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The Kiss I Can't Forget/Letters I'll Never Send

You're far from alone if you've ever started a letter you've never sent, or had a kiss you simply can't forget.
Anonymous
Twenty Something Living

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Why You Should Listen to Your Brilliant Body-Mind Connection

It may just be possible that your headache, back pain or acid reflux could be your body's way of trying to send a message to your mind.
© Copyright 2016 GoodTherapy.org. All rights reserved. Permission to publish granted by Nicole Urdang, MS, NCC, DHM,therapist in Buffalo, New York

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33 Lessons From Living 33 Years

In celebration of the big three-three I've rounded up a list of 33 things that I've learned over the past three+ decades.
Positively Present

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You Can’t Change Others, But You Can Change Your Seat

Family trouble - how do you deal with people you wouldn't speak to if they were just friends? It's not easy, but changing your seat could be a good start.
© Copyright 2016 GoodTherapy.org. All rights reserved. Permission to publish granted by Lynn Somerstein, PhD, E-RYT,therapist in New York City, New York

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4 Steps for Using Song Lyrics as Therapy

Even though it's fairly obvious how it works -- find lyrics, write it down, reflect -- sometimes it's helpful to have all the steps in front of you to motivate you to actually do it.
Positively Present

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To Really Live: Fear Death, Not Life

We're only given so many days, so many moments, and we don't know how many of those we have left.
Positively Present

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How To Choose Happiness

Most people eat more mindfully when they’re happy or content, so it pays to learn how to generate and sustain these moods.

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One Simple Way to Reduce Your Anxiety

Anxiety tends to turn people inward, make them more introspective and therefore, less socially engaged.
Eating Disorders Blog

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I Don't Feel Guilty (and Why You Shouldn't Either!)

Guilt is not necessary for being a good person, and, in fact, it can be detrimental to living a positive, present life. Before diving into how to cope with guilt (and why I believe you should minimize it in the first place), let’s take a look at exactly what guilt is.
Positively Present

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The Aftermath Of A Rape

What's it like to rebuild a life after rape....

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Why We Get Upset So Easily–and How Not To

If you've ever found yourself in front of the refrigerator when you're afraid or upset - you're not alone. Here's why it might happen, and some simple steps to help.

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5 Ways to Connect with Your Creativity

A lack of fulfillment can be caused by many things, but one cause that impacts many people without them realizing it is a lack of creativity.

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Why You Need Lower Expectations

Having low expectations might sound like a bad thing, as if you're settling for less than you deserve or willing to put up with others' bad behavior, but it's actually one of the very best ways to stay positively present.

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6 Ways to Embrace Conflict and Keep Your Relationship Strong

Conflict is a signal the couple still cares. Partners that are still open to sharing their viewpoints are better off than those that don't.

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6 Lessons I Learned From 6 Years Sober

Over the past six years, I've taken away some pretty big life lessons from living sober. Here are the top six lessons I've learned.

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Six Quick Self-soothing Strategies for Anxiety

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Anxiety signals are both physical and mental. Make sure you recognize your signals before reading on.

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Reaching Rainbows: An Interview with Dallas Clayton

Dallas Clayton is an American author and illustrator best known for his children’s works in the Awesome Book series.

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Can Being A Good Storyteller Lead To Love?

As psychologists and experts in narrative persuasion, we wondered: how might stories influence the course of a romantic relationship?

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9 Principles To Help You Eat Mindfully

Excerpted from The Joy of Half a Cookie: Using Mindfulness to Lose Weight and End the Struggle with Food, in which Jean Kristeller, Ph.D., along with Alisa Bowman, teaches readers to reframe their relationships with food by cultivating mindful awareness.

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What My Gay Son Taught Me About the Orlando Massacre

What if the place you felt safest was ripped apart?

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Do You Have a Done-Me-Wrong Collection?

Focusing on your hurt triggers a cascade of similar memories. One negative recollection triggers another and they—and you—are off and running.

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Should You Stay or Go? 5 Questions to Help Choose

The stay-or-go question is something most of us will face at some point in our lives (if we haven't already!). Unless there is some clear indicator that something must change (i.e., abuse, profound misery, etc.), actually making such a choice can be incredibly difficult. So difficult, in fact, that many of us will default to staying where we are, even if we're unhappy, simply because it's easier than making a decision

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How the Weight-inclusive Approach to Health Can Help You

If you haven't heard of a Weight-inclusive approach to weight loss, you're not alone. Here we'll talk about why it just might make more sense.

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I'm a Hypocrite and It's Time to Come Clean

Maybe you remember my story from way back when. The one where I admitted to having an eating disorder, a disease that caused me to weigh less than 100 pounds, and explained how it consumed my life and tore apart the people I care about most. That was back in February, and since then I have tried to lead a healthy life, and for a short while I was succeeding.

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Why Your Cutting Joke Isn't Funny

Mental illness is painful, and still often misunderstood. Many who suffer from this disease try coping in a variety of different ways - including cutting themselves. It's more common than you'd think.

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6 Self-Love Lessons From Alice In Wonderland (Part II)

As you might of seen last week, I wrote about two of my favorite topics: Alice in Wonderland and self-love! Today I'm catching you up with the second half of the amazing self-love lessons from Alice.
If you haven't already, check out Part I for the first three lessons (and some background on Alice).

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6 Self-Love Lessons From Alice in Wonderland Part I

With the release of the new Disney film, Through the Looking Glass, I've been planning to write another Alice-themed article for months. And, after recently releasing my self-love stickers, I've had a love of self-love on the brain so I thought it would be interesting to see if I could find any good self-love lessons in Alice's adventures.

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What Do You Need to Unlearn? 5 Steps to Get Started

True transformation happens when you let go of what you no longer need, allowing space in your life for more positive, empowering habits, mindsets, and experiences!

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6 Benefits of Self-Love

Love yourself. You've heard those words before (and not just in an amazing Justin Bieber song!), but have you ever paused to ask why you should embrace self-love?

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How Penn Jillette Became a Libertarian

Would You Use a Gun to Build a Library or Paint a Picture?

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Learning to Thrive, Not Just Survive

The orchids in my old office thrived, but that all changed when I moved. One detail, one seemingly very small detail, made all the difference. Self-compassion could help your inner orchid bloom again.

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6 Benefits of Having an Open Mind

Having strong beliefs can be a wonderful thing, and it’s important to stay true to your values, but having strong beliefs doesn't have to mean closing your mind to what others have to say.

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5 Reasons to Nix the Negativity in Your Life

We all battle negativity (both internally and externally) from time to time, but one of the best ways I've found to combat that sneak little devil is to remind myself of why negativity does absolutely no good.

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8 Tips For Creating A Positive Career

This coming Friday I have the honor of being the keynote speaker at my high school's Career Day! To be honest, I've put off writing my speech for weeks because I'm quite nervous. I've spoken in front of plenty of adult-filled rooms before, but something about this feels different. After thinking about it for a bit, I realized the big difference between this speaking event and others is: I really want to positively impact these girls -- and think I have an opportunity to do so more than I would with adults.

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Keep Calm: 5 Tips for Preventing Panic

Even if you don't have anxiety on a regular basis, you've probably experienced panic at some point in your life -- those moments when your heart is pounding and your mind is racing with ideas (some completely irrational) about what's happening.

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3 Reasons You Haven’t Tried Meditation (& Why You Should)

Welcome to 50! Children leaving home, unexpected unemployment, a new beginning, and the loss of a parent. Mindfulness and meditation helped me manage the stress of so much transition. It has now become a helpful part of my life, and my coaching practice. So why not give it a chance yourself?!

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Orange Crush

My first memory of being adored occurred when I was about six years old, by a devoted frog who lived beneath our bushes.
Every day he would look at me with such excitation after I fed and caressed the little ribbiter. I kissed him, maybe with the ridiculous idea that he would turn into a handsome prince.

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Why I Have No Memories

Writers need to connect with their audience. Common wisdom says to be real, and share your "personal" experiences to drive real engagement. What do you do if trauma has taught you that's a bad idea? Sometimes, letting go of a habit that helped you long ago is the only real way forward.

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Work and Rest: How to Find the Perfect Balance

Work and rest. Two things we must all do, and two things we often struggle with. For some, working comes easily -- we're always on the go, always doing something that makes us feel productive. For others, it's the rest that comes without struggle -- we're content to lie on the couch all day, ignoring the ever-lengthening to-do list.

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The Wisdom Of Seeing Everything As Temporary

Open the doors and throw open the windows. It’s hard to come face-to-face with your shortcomings and your bad habits. But I have, and the more aware I get, the more painful it can be sometimes. My instinct in the past has been to run from it, but now that I’ve been practicing mindfulness for several years, I’ve been learning to stop and face it - and learn to let it go.

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How 15 Positive Affirmations Can Change Your Life

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t—you’re right.” —Henry Ford
Our thoughts shape our perceptions and the way we experience ourselves and the world around us. But, research shows that nearly 80% of our "self-talk" is negative. How do you break that endless negative cycle?

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How to Create Your Own “Wellth”

I was sent a copy of Jason Wachob's Wellth: How I Learned to Build a Life, Not a Résumé, and the title alone had me hooked. The book focuses on the various building blocks of wellth: eat, move, work, believe, explore, breathe, connect, love, heal, thank, ground, live, and laugh.

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Crimes and Missed-Demeanor

My maturity level ultimately depends on who I’m with.

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What to Do When Procrastination Stops Working for You

Some people say they work best under pressure, that a looming deadline is about the only thing that serves to motivate them and get those productivity pistols firing. However, those same people often arrive at a point in their lives when this is no longer optimal. They are tired and stressed and feel like they’re always behind and playing catch-up. They begin to miss deadlines and suffer the consequences (poor performance reviews, lost opportunities, late fees, disappointment and anger from others, etc.). That’s when they realize a change is needed, that what may have worked before doesn’t suit any longer.

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How to Find the Good in Tough Times

I've so enjoyed focusing on striving to find the good all month long. It's been a tricky month for me (as February often is for some reason...), and having the goal of finding the good has really helped me stay focused on the positive aspects of life.
Today's post is part of Find the Good February, a month dedicated to finding the good in your life (and in yourself!). Each week features a unique theme, and this week's theme is TOUGH TIMES.

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How To Find Good in Others

Today's post is part of Find the Good February, a month dedicated to finding the good in your life (and in yourself!). Each week features a unique theme, and this week's theme is RELATIONSHIPS.

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What To Do When Your Anger Feels Out Of Control

Healthy anger requires self-awareness, open communication, and the ability to self-soothe. When you can clearly describe your thoughts and feelings, be open to alternative perspectives, and problem-solve, you keep your anger in check and promote intimacy in relationships. On the other hand, if your anger feels out of your control, makes you “see red,” or even scares the people around you, you must develop a new way of expressing your anger.
Before you can rein in your anger, however, you must stop minimizing or justifying it. Look in the mirror and acknowledge your responsibility for your actions.

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Planet of the Grapes

I keep a sign on my front door that says No Soliciting….unless you’re bringing in a bottle of wine and are willing to wash some floors. That sign sits alongside another sign of special importance. Property protected by a wine swigging female. Boyfriend and parrot may not be upstanding either.

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Depowering Guilt and Shame

If you haven’t heard of Brené Brown, let me introduce you to this compassionate and wise author, speaker, and University of Austin social work professor. I first heard her simple, honest truths in a TED talk. Here is some of her wisdom about failure and resilience (Time magazine, 9/21/15, p. 88), subjects that have strong relevance for people who’ve struggled with eating and weight concerns.

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How to Find the Good in Yourself

Today's post is part of Find the Good February, a month dedicated to finding the good in your life (and in yourself!). Each week features a unique theme, and this week's theme is SELF.

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Exorcising The Ghosts Of Romantic Pasts

Few things in life are as traumatic as the end of a long-term, romantic relationship. Nonetheless, many people are able to eventually recover and move on relatively unscathed.

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Why Having A Quarter Life Crisis Is Awesome

I thought it was the end of the world. I didn’t know what I was doing with my life, where I was headed and kept questioning everything about myself. I started second guessing my career path and didn’t know how to make the switch to doing what I absolutely love: writing.
I kept comparing myself to my friends, my husband and other people several years older than me. I felt depressed for still being an intern at 22 years old, which I know now was a ridiculous way to feel.

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How to Find Good at Work

Whether you love what you do or you dread going to work each weekday, for most of us, work is a part of life -- and a part where we spend the majority of our time. If work is where we spend the most time, shouldn't we make an effort to make the most of it?

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Can Meditation Really Improve Your Mental Health?

During a recent family vacation to Canada, my husband commented that my energy was unusually calm and peaceful. He asked if I knew what was creating this change. I tend to be a Type A person who constantly has thoughts running through her head and can have difficulty relaxing when there are tasks to be done. So this calmer, more centered approach to life is new for me.
“I think it’s the meditation,” I replied.

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So Happy Together

For a couple of years after we met, my beau and I were consumed with yearning and ended each loving sentiment with, Be Mine. Then, every enthusiastic body membrane told us to move in together. You have no idea how great it feels to wake up every morning and know he’s mine, and I’m his meal maker, dirty underwear picker-upper, and lost items locater. Which could be totally misconstrued for relationship purgatory if taken the wrong way.

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Announcing: Find the Good February

Today is the first day of Find the Good February: a month dedicated entirely to finding the good all around (and within) you! Read on for more details and info on this week's theme: finding the good ONLINE ...

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New Towels and Dirty Laundry

It was Saturday—cleaning day—a time I use each week to collect my thoughts via the repetitive motion of putting things in their proper place.
It was time to clean my bathroom.

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Miracle Worker

My sixty-three years had already arched my sensitive small spine. But there was nothing small about the pain I was suffering.

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Four Simple Steps to Manage Emotional Eating

If you’ve been reading my blogs, you’ll know that when affective memories get triggered, our current feelings grow way out of proportion to a current situation, just the sort of thing that drives emotional eating.

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Feeling Sad? Try These Quick Pick-Me-Ups!

January is always a bit of a sad month for me -- and I know I'm not alone in this. For a lot of people, it's a gloomy, gray month filled with the dreaded post-holiday blues. It's back-to-work after a couple of months of fun-filled activities, and it's an especially tough time for anyone who suffers from SAD.

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6 Tips for Tackling Tough Conversations

Have you ever been in a position where you really wanted to talk to someone about something but the topic of conversation was really awkward / emotional / sensitive and so you put it off for ages hoping that it would somehow be resolved or disappear but, without talking about it, there was obviously going to be no miraculous solution so you had to actually get the courage to bring it up and you were so scared to do it and it had been on your mind for so long that you didn't even know where to begin?

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Lovin’ Spoonfuls

Young parents these days are a bit more attentive to pesticides, additives, and preservatives than my generation was. Having become a grandmother my second time around, I can’t help but ponder the practices of child sustenance and what awaits this new mother. I’m surprised the food industry hasn’t come out with low fat tofu Tater Tots.

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To Eat Mindfully, Sit Down and Eat

Worried about overeating? Eat while sitting down. If you’re reading my blogs and putting effort into becoming a “normal” eater, what could be more important than taking your seat and paying attention to the food in front of you? Science says that’s how to eat less.

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How to Protect Your Heart

Happy 2016, Positively Present readers! I'm so excited to kick off this new year with you. There are so many exciting projects in the works for the coming months -- new books, new products, new projects, and more -- and I can't wait to share them with you! To begin the new year, I'm starting off with a new type of post: Reader Request. I often receive emails, Instagram comments, blog post comments, etc. from readers asking if I'd write about a specific topic. I love when I receive requests because it tells me what you want to read and it inspires me to explore topics I might not have considered. If you have a request, contact me and I may just write about it for you!

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The Difference Between Happiness and Positivity

You've probably heard quotes like "happiness is a choice" or "if you want to be happy, be" or "people are as happy as they make up their minds to be." (I'm probably guilty of using these words. Scroll through my Instagram feed and I bet you'll find "choose happy" or something along those lines amidst my many quote-themed photos.) In theory, these quotes come from a good place. They're meant to highlight the notion that, though you don't always have control of your circumstances, you have control over how you feel.
Except... that's not true.

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Blah, Blah, Blah

If I want to start out the Year feeling somewhat optimistic, I should probably begin with several milligrams of Paxil.

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A Christmas Carol: Starring You!

One of my favorite Christmas tales is Charles Dickens' A Christmas Carol. It's such a thought-provoking story, filled with concepts like forgiveness and compassion and taking control of the present that we should try to apply to our lives all year long.

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How to Reach a Person Stuck Behind a ‘Wall’

Intensive short-term dynamic psychotherapy (ISTDP), like all psychotherapy models, is a set of ideas and strategies used to form a healing relationship with another human being. Like therapists using other models of therapy, ISTDP therapists strive to create a relationship in which a person in therapy feels safe and secure. Experience shows that people need to feel safe in order to experience the emotions that their symptoms are designed to hide, and that experience of emotions within a secure bond will likely reduce their symptom burden.

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8 Ways Sensitive People Make the World Better

Sensitivity is often referred to in a negative context. Phrases such as “You’re too sensitive” can be commonplace when someone expresses strong emotions. Much of American society is not set up to honor the needs of highly sensitive people.
By definition, a highly sensitive person (HSP) is someone who has an innate high degree of sensory processing sensitivity and emotional intelligence. Studies show these people are naturally more sensitive to stimuli, whether it be loud noises, strong smells, or bright lights. They may startle easily, feel emotions strongly, and may be more affected by substances such as caffeine and alcohol.

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Clear and Present Wager

A wager is an agreement between two parties in which the one who has made an incorrect prediction about an uncertain outcome will forfeit something stipulated to the other. My boyfriend and I often participate in this kind of competitive challenging. He makes bets with me that I too won’t be able to find his glasses when they come up missing. It’s like making a wager with a female squirrel that she won’t find a nut.

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10 Steps To Move Beyond Rage

Have you ever “lost it” and raged at someone in the car because you were cut off or honked at? Or worse, have you ever yelled at your significant other after being criticized?
Perhaps you’ve yelled at someone at work who has pointed out a mistake or harshly attacked yourself for some seemingly minor infraction like spilling milk or dropping your phone. You may have noticed the generally negative feelings you are left with after a rage attack.

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Don’t Let Regrets Stress You or Push You To Food

Many people get hung up on regrets. What they wish they’d had or done takes up more real estate in their heads than the lives they’re currently living. To dwell in regret is like walking down a street looking backwards. While making yourself miserable, you miss the only part of your life that matters: now.

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Dear Mr. Fantasy

I had always felt like something was missing in my life. I didn’t know if it was a person, a puppy, or a cream puff. All those years I waited for Prince Charming to show up and thought the poor guy might be caught in traffic or something. When he didn’t come, I ended up mating with the souls of Smirnoff, stuffed crust pizzas, and a few mild hangovers.

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Creativity Can Replace Mindless Eating

Half a lifetime ago, I did a lot of mindless eating, especially when I had that antsy feeling from having nothing to do. The more I turned to writing (fiction at first), the less I thought about food. The more writing I did, the more I wanted to do, so that it occupied my free time and gradually became a passion. Moreover, it energized my mind and body in a way that food-as-time-filler never could or did.

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The Dos and Don’ts of Being a Positive Friend

While focusing on gratitude this month, I've, of course, been giving a lot of thought to what matters most to me and what I'm most thankful for. Not surprisingly, one of the first things that comes to mind when I think of thankfulness is the good fortune I've had when it comes to the friendships in my life.

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Cursed

The priest never understood the severity of my suffering. It’s not like I robbed the church basket or threw a baby bunny off a bridge. Unlike most mischievous girls, Marie Antoinette never knew the adolescent amusement of teepeeing the neighbor’s house with multi-hued crepe paper… right before it rained. Neither did I. But I can’t say that I didn’t think about it.

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The 5 Best Ways to Show Gratitude

Being grateful is one of the best ways to embrace a positive, present life. When you're grateful, it's impossible to be negative. It's also an excellent tool for staying in the moment.

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“Should” is a Lot Like “Stupid”

At 55, those delightful yoga sessions that instantly feel delicious deep down in the sinews and muscles, triggering pleasure sensors in the brain, are farther and fewer in between, even in a daily practice. Most days that great good feeling opens up only after slow beginnings, working steadily into full-throttle fluidity and warmth. I treasure those moments of recognizing deep physiological release and mental liberation. My mind soars with my body’s surrender to more, deeper, and longer stretches, everything opening, including possibility.

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People Are a Lot Like Blotting Paper

Although the comparison of people to blotting paper may seem strange, stick with me as I delve deeper into the theory of how truly similar we are to this now-forgotten item.

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Why You Should Stop Saying ‘Should’

Should. It's a small word, but it has a pretty big impact on the way we think about ourselves and others. It's a word I don't contemplate often, but frequently use — and I don't think I'm alone in this. But, after reading Kate Bolick's Spinster: Making a Life of One's Own (part memoir, part cultural exploration of the unmarried woman that I found very eye-opening), I've spend a lot of time thinking about the word "should" — both in the context of my relationship status and in a more general sense.

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10 Easy Ways to Improve Your Marriage Today

The romance/sizzle/spark/affection has left the building and no one is chasing after it. The holidays are a great opportunity to look at and improve what ails us in our intimate relationship. What follows are my so-easy-anyone-can-do-it tips to improve your marriage in moments.

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Rejection in Your Professional Life

Many dreams go unrealized because the dreamer would rather hang on to that perfect dream than face the possibility of rejection. But since rejection is such a big part of growing within your career, hunting for work, and just living, I’d like to make the case for the idea that we may be looking at getting a “no” in the wrong way.

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The Wins Keep on Coming

Author: Cheryl Kehoe Rodgers 7786
We’re not even through 2015 and already I’ve seen big changes, and the potential for bigger changes. And, I’m learning a lot about myself and my kids.

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Can You Help Change an Abuser?

Throughout my work with abuse survivors (remember: no VICTIMS), the main questions I’ve been asked have been: Can s/he change? Did I do something wrong? Is there a chance we can get back together? Am I that unimportant to him/her?

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The Cost Your Spirit Pays In A Destructive Relationship

“I can’t imagine what it feels like to be content and grateful. I have spent so many years in bad relationships, I wouldn’t know a healthy one if walked up and introduced itself to me. My spirit feels dead and my soul feels destroyed.”
Those devastating words were said to me by a patient of mine who had spent most of her life in a series of destructive relationships. The cumulative effect from her critical parents, unkind spouse, unappreciative children, demanding boss, back-stabbing coworkers, and gossipy friends had left her emotionally and spiritually depleted. In addition, she was deeply depressed, anxious, frequently ill, had low self-esteem, and felt hopeless and abandoned.

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How To Help A Friend In An Abusive Relationship

So many people ask me this question that I thought I’d devote a short article to it this month. I hope it will be helpful to you if you know someone who is stuck in a creepy relationship.
Helping a friend who is in an abusive relationship is a very frustrating experience. You see a creep for who s/he is but your friend is oblivious to everything you see or say. It’s as if she doesn’t have eyes, ears, or a brain! How do you get through to her (I will use “her” or “she” from now on, but feel free to substitute your male pal’s name, if it applies).

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How to Love Your Mind

One of the topics I discuss in detail in my workbooks is how to love your mind. The thoughts you have create the life you live so it's important to direct thoughts to a positive, productive place. Learning to create a loving mindset (and loving your mind even when it isn't so positive) is an essential aspect of self-love. How you think — and speak — about yourself is vital to creating a love of who you are. Positive thoughts and words impact your mental, physical, and emotional health in a big way.

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A History of Self-Help, Motivation & Success

You may think that motivational speakers, self-help guides, and career counseling are products of the late 20th century, but their history actually goes back further.

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5 Ways to Be a Better Listener

As much as I'd like to be defined as a good listener, I don't think I'm quite there yet. However, I do think I have some pretty solid ideas on how to take my listening skills to the next level.

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Rediscovering How to Be a Tourist in Your Own Life

I think something as simple as a lack of a tea bag may have altered the course of my life. I must admit to this truth, so humbly delivered to me, because it feels as if a cosmic episode of falling dominoes was destined to remind me of an important lesson. I rediscovered how to be a tourist in my own life.

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5 Tips for Loving Your Body

Loving your body can be laborious, but if you don’t do it, you’re going to have a very hard time loving yourself — or your life.

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4 Steps to Set Boundaries

A friend of mine has been struggling with one of her coworkers—a well-meaning but overly time-consuming character that adds a great deal of stress to her workday—and she jokingly said to me, "You should write an article about how to deal with him!" I laughed and brushed off the thought until I sat down to write this week's post and found that her situation kept coming back to me. I've written before about how to stay positive around negativity, how to handle criticism, and how detaching can improve relationships, but this situation is a bit different.

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Get Your Motivation Back

When your “get up and go” has “got up and left,” when there’s no more “pep” left in your step, sometimes the best thing you can do is just stop trying for a while. Moving forward feels great, but movement takes energy. When’s the last time you took a break without feeling guilty? If you dislike the idea of resting, it might help to know that it’s a productive and appropriate project that could help you get your groove back.

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Why Are Memories of My Past Trauma Coming Back Now?

“I’ve been fine for years. Now I have nightmares every night and can barely function at work. What’s going on?”
“I thought I was over it. I even went to therapy as a kid! Why is it all coming back again?”
“I feel like I’m falling apart, but the abuse was years ago. Does this mean I’m getting worse?”
One of the first things survivors of sexual abuse ask me when they come into my therapy office is, “Why now? Why are these feelings and memories coming back now?” Often, the underlying question is, “I was fine before, but now I’m struggling. Am I going crazy?”

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Coloring is the New Meditation

Coloring has always been a go-to activity for me, but these days I'm not alone. Coloring has become quite the craze for grown-ups, with adult coloring books popping up all over the place. In fact, the number one best-selling book on Amazon right now is this coloring book: Enchanted Forest: An Inky Quest & Coloring Book. Pretty crazy, huh? Who would have thought an adult coloring book would be the top-seller?

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It’s Never Too Late To Learn Something New About Yourself

I like to think I’m pretty sure of myself, and that I have a pretty good idea of what kind of person I am, that I am aware what my strengths and weaknesses are, and that I’ve carved a pretty decent path for myself.
When you get to a certain age, these things matter, and a certain confidence — or maybe a wisdom — comes with living your life guided by faith, experiences and loyalty to family.
But, according to BuzzFeed, I don’t know myself. At all.

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7 Things Self-Actualized People Do Differently

The term “self-actualization” was made popular by Abram Maslow in his hierarchy of needs theory of human development. Essentially self-actualization is an existential term indicating the prominent feeling of being fully alive and aware of what it means to be a meaning-creating creature in an otherwise meaningless universe. It is the self-realization of one’s individuated maturity in balance with an interdependent spirit. Self-actualized people have a healthy perception of reality (mind, body, and soul) and practice healthy habits. Here are seven things self-actualized people tend to do differently than the rest of us.

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6 Pointers for Practicing Patience

Last week I spent a good part of my day in a hospital waiting room as a friend of mine was undergoing surgery. The waiting room had zero phone service reception, and during hours of iPhone-less waiting I was given a chance to reflect on how to cultivate patience, particularly while waiting in a situation that's less-than ideal. (I've spent time waiting in hospital rooms before, but usually for someone's new baby to arrive, which is a totally different, more exciting kind of waiting.) Patience is something I've always struggled with — my lack of it being one of the reasons I started Positively Present in the first place! — but as difficult as it is for me to master, I know it's something that's absolutely essential for living a positive and present life, which is why I've spent some time thinking up some pointers for practicing patience.

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Stop Calling Recovery Hard Work

I’m glad to be evolving as a therapist and educator on the topics of food and weight. The more I learn about how people change, the more value I am to my clients, students, and readers. One thing I’ve tried to stop myself from doing is saying and writing about recovery as “hard” or “work.” I’m not saying it can’t be challenging, because it can be, but it actually makes it more so when we keep reminding ourselves of the difficulty.

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12 Post-Surgery Life Lessons: Part 2

A few weeks ago, I had surgery for the first time and last week I wrote about some of the life lessons I gained from the unsettling and unpleasant experience of undergoing surgery and facing some of my biggest fears — namely, anything related to doctors or medicine! It's been a challenge to get back to the point where I'm able to do work and write again, but I'm so happy to be getting better day-by-day. Keep reading to discover some of the lessons I learned from having surgery and spending weeks recovering from it.

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12 Post-Surgery Life Lessons: Part 1

About two weeks ago, I had surgery and I'm finally feeling a bit like my old self. I still have a while until I'm 100% back to where I was before (and I have the joy of another surgery to look forward to as well. ugh.), but I'm happy to say that I'm here and I'm writing again. YAY! As you can imagine, I've learned a lot over the past few weeks — about myself, about facing fears, about staying positive and present even when it's really difficult to do so, and, importantly, about what it's like to face a situation in which I was forced to spend days and days in bed, recovering and taking care of myself.

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Better Communication For Better Relationships

Words are potent. When you interact with others, each person enters into a dance-like process composed of words and gestures—a dance that conveys information.
This dance transmits meaning, meaning that can clarify, calm, encourage, uplift, confuse, frighten, discourage, or depress. The purpose of this article is to encourage you to use words purposefully to help improve your relationships—to be mindful of the power of words to help or harm.

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What Do You Wish to Be Free From?

Some of us force ourselves to make relationships work, limping along for years with half-hearted hope. Some of us tolerate behavior that rattles us, convincing ourselves it's easier not to put up a fight. Some of us make choices based on what society deems "the right path," trudging along to keep pace with the norm. We are often so busy lending our strength to the things we wish to be free from that we don't even realize we could choose a different path.

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6 Steps for Coping with Fear

I've never encountered a fear like this before. I've faced my share of fears, but they've always been more abstract and emotional — fear of not succeeding or having my heart broken or taking a big career risk — and much easier to overcome. This fear is incredibly tangible and forceful. It's physical and has a deadline with a very specific date and time. It's doing its best to trample my attempts at staying positively present. But, scared as I am, I'm determined not to let it take over. I'm trying as best I can to make the most of the time I have between now and my surgery date without letting fear rule my life. I know I won't be able to completely eradicate the fear, but I can learn to cope with it. Here are some of the steps I've been taking to cope with my fear.

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Developing a Healthy Concept of Beauty

I was hesitant to write on the topic of beauty because I’m still in the middle of the work and many unpleasant experiences are attached to this word. But this is an important topic: first, to face all those negative notions I have buried deep inside me and second, I have a daughter with whom I would like to have a more conscious conduct with regard to this issue.

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How to Find Sunshine When You’re Under the Weather

For the past month, I've been struggling with a not-so-fun health issue. I've never in my life had any issues with my health (other than the average cold) so it's been an eye-opening experience to wake up day after day not feeling like myself and dealing with constant pain. And, to be completely honest, it's been very difficult to stay positive. Not feeling good sucks, and when it starts impacting your whole life — where you can go, what you can do, how much work you can accomplish in a day — it goes from unpleasant to frustrating to depressing real fast.

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Four Fears To Eliminate To Build Self-Confidence

Isn’t it funny how we fear the things we most want in our lives? We fear the things we know deep down will help us make massive progress. We fear the things that will build our self-confidence, and we fear the things that will make us happy.
Does this sound a lot like you?
The problem with avoiding fears that will benefit you is the habits that come with it. Once the habit is there, it’s that much more difficult to overcome, and the fear itself becomes stronger. Whether you’re afraid of singing, public speaking, blogging, starting a business, going out on a date or asking for a raise, it’s all the same.
There are 4 fears you need to eliminate to become more confident.

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10 Practical Ways to Handle Your Heartbreak

A couple weeks ago, I received an email from Catherine, a young woman suffering from the heart-wrenching pain of losing her first love. In the email, she told me how her boyfriend had recently broken up with her. Even though the relationship was not a positive one (he broke her trust, flirted with others, gave less than he took, etc.), she was crushed by the relationship's end. She knew she was better off without him, but that knowledge didn't make the loss easier to bear. The most important thing to remember, I wrote to her, is this: one day you will feel better. It might take a long time (it's different for every situation), but it will happen. You will also find love again. It might not feel like it's possible in the midst of losing that first love, but it will happen. Of course, most of us have heard these things before and I know how meaningless these words can sound when your heart is breaking, so I offered up some practical advice to help her manage the heartache.

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How To Accept Yourself

The rule to self-acceptance is simple. No matter what you need to do to accomplish your goals, achieve your dreams, or heck, just get through the day, you do it by approving of yourself first and last. Easy? I don’t know about you but it was one of the hardest shifts in mindset that I have had to cultivate. And oh so worth it.

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Learning To Cherish The Slow Days

It’s nice to cherish the slow days in a world of busy. I’m a firm believer in lounge around days. They are sorely underrated.
As much as I love going out on the weekends, whether it’s to take a trip to the movies, go for a hike, host a dinner party or attend a comedy show, sometimes I long for a day (or two) with no planned schedule. Those are the days that can turn into anything.
All photos taken by Alida Bigham.

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Coping With A Terrible, No Good, Very Bad Day

Not too long ago, I found myself in the middle of a terrible, no good, very bad day. Everything seemed to be going wrong and my mind would not stop returning again and again to negative thoughts and envisioning worst-case scenarios. It was one of those days when I felt like, no matter what, I couldn't stop ruminating on what had/could go wrong and I felt far, far away from the present moment. All I really wanted to do was curl up on the couch and contemplate all the things that weren't going right, but I knew that definitely was not the best way to stay positive or present so I set about trying to come up with the best ways to make the most of my terrible, no good, very bad day.

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How to Stop Comparing Ourselves on Social Media

We all have certain triggers that can cause our confidence to take a sudden nosedive. For some, it’s a trip to the gym. If you’re self-conscious of your body, watching fit people strut their stuff in their tightest-fitting gym clothes likely has you over-analyzing your every body part.
The feeling of lack and dissatisfaction that we feel when scrolling through our newsfeed often results from comparing our true reality to our “friends”‘ idealized, perfectly Instagrammed realities.
So how can we stop ourselves from making them?
By Emily Holland for Tiny Buddha, cross-posted with permission

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Harnessing the Positive Power of No

No is a very powerful word when it comes to your relationships with others — and with yourself. When you first think about it, the word "no" might trigger thoughts of negativity, but harnessing the power of no can be a very positive thing. In particular, mastering the art of saying no is essential to distancing yourself from negative people or situations. Many people have a “yes” default setting when asked to attend an event or help with a project, which would seem like a positive thing, right? For the most part, saying yes to others — offering to help or showing support — is a good thing, but if yes is a default response for you, you might not be pausing to consider whether or not saying yes will have a positive impact on your life. When it comes to determining whether or not a yes is a positive or a negative consider these questions.

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Word of the Month: Create

When most people think about the words "create" or "creative," they think of making art—writing, drawing, illustrating, photographing, etc.—but creating need not be an artistic endeavor. Creating artistically does have many positive benefits, but art-based creativity isn't for everyone (and, for many people, is somewhat intimidating). Instead of focusing on artistic creation this month, we're going to look at other ways you use creativity to craft a life you love.

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Put Your Heart to Paper: Celebrating Moms!

In our digital-dominated world, the art of putting words on paper isn't as common as it once was, but I think it needs to have a comeback. The act of writing something down — sending a letter or mailing a handwritten card — is so meaningful. It's not only an incredibly positive act (and something the card-receiver greatly appreciates), but it's also a wonderful way to stay present. When you sit down to write something by hand, you bring yourself into the moment, putting your full attention on the words coming from your heart. With Mother's Day just around the corner (May 10, in case you need a reminder!), it's a perfect time to think about putting pen to paper and jotting down something meaningful for the mom (or mom-like figure) in your life.

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Becoming A Morning Person

I love sleeping in. To be honest, I’m a bit obsessed with a great night’s sleep with no set alarm in sight. I look forward to the weekends just for all the opportunities for shut eye!
Ok, that’s enough talk about sleep and how much I love it. Today we are going to discuss the wonders that an early morning can bring.
Following these tips will have you becoming a morning person in no time!

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9 Life Lessons From Kimmy Schmidt

The best thing about the show is Kimmy's positive attitude. Even when she was trapped in the bunker, led to believe the world had ended by a creepy reverend (played by the hilarious John Hamm), she maintained an optimistic outlook and tried to keep her fellow captives' spirits uplifted. And when she got out of the bunker and found the world much changed in the 15 years she'd missed, she doesn't mope around, thinking about how helpless she is. She takes her life into her own hands, using her determination and optimism to move to NYC, find a job and place to live, and make new friends. Whether or not you've seen the show, here are some excellent life lessons (and great Kimmy quotes!) you can take away from Kimmy and her adventures.

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Word of the Month: Explore

I'll be honest — I'm not much of an explorer. Though I'm well aware of the benefits of getting out of one's comfort zone and exploring new things, I tend to stay where I feel safe and comfortable. But not this month! This month is all about getting out of my comfort zone and exploring, and I encourage you to give exploration a try in your life this month too. Typically when I hear the word "explore," I think of scaling mountains or traipsing through a forest, but exploration isn't just about lacing up your hiking boots or going out into the wilderness.

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Learn to Love Without Expectation

As I often do when spring rolls around, I’ve been thinking lately about love. In particular, I’ve been thinking about what that all-encompassing, difficult-to-define word really means, particularly when it comes to expectations of what love should be — and what we expect of others when we're in love. Take a moment to think about the people you love. Now consider what you expect from them. I’m not talking about basic human decency and kindness. You expect your husband not to cheat on you. You expect your girlfriend to be honest with you. You expect your significant other to speak kindly to you.

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Forgiveness: Four Lessons from Meditation

A little over a week ago, I attended an all-day meditation retreat led by Tara Brach. I'd signed up for it months ago and it seemed like a fun idea, a great way to really see how mindful I could be, but as the day grew near, I started to worry. Would I be able to sit still all day? Would I be able to survive without looking at my phone? Would I be able to handle my own thoughts for hours and hours at a time? Though I strive to be positive and present in my daily life, meditation is an entirely different level of presence — and one I wasn't entirely sure I was ready to tackle for an entire day.

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How to Handle Disappointment

Lately I've faced quite a few (professional and personal) disappointments, and during these periods of dejection I've come to realize it's really difficult to stay positive and present when you feel disappointed. A lot of emotions challenge positive, present living (sadness, anger, frustration, etc.) The literal definition of disappointment is "the feeling of sadness or displeasure caused by the nonfulfillment of one's hopes or expectations," but I don't know if that simple phrasing really captures the way it feels to be let down, to be hurt by something that has changed or that has not lived up to what was expected. It hurts.

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Turning Self-Awareness Into Change

While scrolling BuzzFeed the other day, I came across this article: The Self-Awareness at This Year's Oscars Is Not a Substitute for Change. The author, Alison Willmore, made some great points about the Oscars, and she also got me thinking about self-awareness in general. In particular, she got me thinking about how self-awareness, useful as it is, isn't enough. For self-awareness to become self-improvement, it must be paired with change.

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Word of the Month: Change

We all have habits — and most of us have trouble with them. Whether it's trying to make new (good) habits or quit old (bad) habits, we all have stories about our habits and how we've started, kept, or failed at them. In her book, Gretchen Rubin makes it clear that there's no one-size-fits-all solution to starting, keeping, or breaking habits. Her key insight is this: To change our habits, we must first figure out ourselves.

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Lessons On Friendship By A Twenty-something

Our twentysomething years will undoubtedly be some of the most exciting and vulnerable years of our lives. Luckily, one of the things that helps us move forward and maintain some shreds of sanity are our friends. The friendships that survive our twentysomething years will most likely be the ones that sustain us for many years to come. Here are a few lessons that I’ve learned about friendship that have really come in handy:

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The Love You Deserve

There are two kinds of women in the world: those who seek out, find, and accept good love, and those who don’t. For 23 years, I was the latter.

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